9 words of women

Nine words women use...

1.) Fine : This is the word women use to end an argument when they are Right and you need to shut up.

2.) Five Minutes : If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour.
Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more Minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

3.) Nothing : This is the calm before the storm. This means something, And you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing Usually end in fine.

4.) Go Ahead : This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

5.) Loud Sigh : This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)

6.) That's Okay : This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

7.) Thanks : A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just say you're welcome.

8.) Whatever : Is a women's way of saying F@!K YOU!

9.) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to #3.

Resistance to change

Recently i have upgraded my laptop software to office 2007. It is kind of new thing to me, cos i felt like i need to re- learn office. The layout is totally different and that is what called "ribbon setting" haha.... i see the reason why the design is being 'improved' to become ribbons --> less clicking --> more efficient. But i still see people resist to change. Some of my friends don't even bother to take a look at it just because of the new face lift is too 'shiny' on them and difficult for the to adapt, etc. Anyhow, i see this as normal. When it comes to things that totally change the usual perception, 1st reaction is always back off first -> wait and see. But i think MS is pretty smart about this. And could be the reason why they changed the format to .xlsx to signify the version. In fact this will eventually impact everybody who use MS office ; as more and more people is using the offie 2007, it creates the demand to change because the file will no longer be compatible to other version. Currently for compatibility reason, i always save my files to 2003 version, however when more and more people start using 2007 version, saving the file to 2003 becomes inefficient in work place and the people start to shift for upgrading to office 2007 .... MS really have a smart move to shift people towards efficiency by less clicking yet forcing people to change another way round!

I am still around...

It has been such a long time, i left this blog.... real busy and big change in my life for the past few months... Nevertheless, it is time back on track start again my blogging.

For the past few months i am so overwhelmed with everything that you would have experience in whole year. It looks like i am trying to rush up everything before the end of the year, but i actually i am not and not intentionally.

Anyhow, i need to reboot this blog. Again, this blog will focus on my personal thought every morning, and to share with all my friends...

Lossing wisdom

Last week, I went to extract one of my wisdom teeth. The operation take about half an hour but the experience last forever! The wisdom teeth sat at lower right jaw and so difficult to pull out that the doc has to section the tooth into 3. It is really a big 'construction' to go through, and although numb, can still feel the pressure of pulling. Bye bye my wisdom... tooth! That's what friends of mine has been telling me, i am down with 1 wisdom. hahah......

Thank God that the operation went very well, i don't have much pain after that. I stick to my normal diet, no porridge, just to chew them into very small for every bite of food. It is a week now, and will remove the stiches this coming Thursday. Again, friend, if you are going to dentist to do removal of wisdom teeth, my advise is that "RELAX" and leave the work to doctor. THey will do the best for you!

Freedom of Speech

Normally i don't buy newspaper. But i did last saturday nite and found out there were news about this talented Chinese who 'modify' the songs of our national Anthem. To avoid harrassment and troublesome brought towards him and his family, his father actually requested him to apologise in public. I don't know why this has come into newspaper, but don't we wide aware that internet is a WORLD WIDE WEB and that is where the freedom came from? To me, freedom of speech belongs to Americans - i think they have maximum capacity for freedom of speech. To us in this country, doubt arised. Afterall, we had to recognised that we are 'limited edition'. I left a comment in namewee's blog (the author of that song). For him to get the space for all his talent, stay where he is. As soon as he comes back, the space became limited and even 'prohibited'. I always uphold 'no complaints no improvement' - to an individual, a company, and even a country; listen to all the complaints and not avoiding all the complaints. Why Japanese is so good and so confidence today in making cars? They treat complaints preciously and seriously. Good complaint helps to grow and not to destroy.

I felt sad for those who are talented yet not to be seen and found. How many are there that still suppressed by the evil?

Looking for surviving skill

Recently has been in touch some long lost friends and seems everybody is so much enjoy being in corporate world because of all the freebies and all the benefits inherit in the corporate culture. The good always folded with bad thing. The things i always see through is when you got all the luxury, be appreciative; when you don't have all the luxury, then you work harder to earn it. I have been in small company most of my career life except now. So to me, everything looks luxury, even to search for a humble heart is a challenge. Agreed by my circle of friends. We started to see the neccesity of surviving skill in a corporate world. Mean to say, reality is we got to shield ourselves whenever and whereever. Shield is for protection, not for pretention. I always forgot to put on my shield for protection. I am the kind of person that tend to forgive and forget. And therefore i started to think if i was left behind in this corporate world. A layman that know nothing but try to earn the credit by hardwork. How much is it to be done? HOw much is it that not done yet?

By character, i think i fit well into the corp. By way of getting things done, i think i need more kick start as is totally different models of mechanism to learn by. For my friends who are like me in this corporate world, are so well trained already to fit in with aspect of capability. Surviving skill is indivualistic, and should be discovered by personality and mentality. A person with more of observance may have a better structure of surviving skill than a person who just work to earn more.

My favorite blog

This is my favorite blog which i surfed everyday. The author is creative and enthusiastic about the life and the humor of life.

http://bentobjects.blogspot.com/

Finger story

Last weekend we had our division teambuilding in Lumut. It was a sunny day, real hot and we were running around that get the Quests done. Unfortunately i hurt my 4th finger tendon during one of the activity. That activity required a bunker shot which to hit the golf ball out of sand area. Although this type of golfing is always practiced at driving range, but at that moment i felt the pain in on my finger. I got my nerve out of it on one of the hits! Gosh, my finger was shaking because of nerve losing, and i still have 3 balls to go. With lip tight and hand stabled, i finished all the hits and scored 7 out of 10. I am satisfied with the result but not can't justified the pain from my finger. At that moment i felt bone fracture on my right fourth finger. The experience was painstaking! For the rest of evening and next day my activity level dropped a little due to the inconvenience of my finger. The pain escalated to the point where it pricked on me just to open my hotel door. I got problem with taking shower as well, packing my luggage as well.... everything just to be slow moving......

That nite was a nite mare. I got no oilment to apply but just apply some soothing balm to relieve it. I could not sleep well, woke up in the middle of nite and read my bible. I prayed so hard that God will heal my finger and don't let it broken. I went to bed after finish 1 chapter in James, and still praying hard for healing and for peaceful sleep. In the middle of nite, this was where the pressure came. I can't differentiate the reality or dreaming, but i know i saw something clearly in front of my eye - a furiated lady with wide opened eyes, stared at me without blinking. I was histerical, and i sat down on my bed trying to clear my mind. I keep the verse which i just memorize 1 John 4:4 - Greater is the one in my heart than the one in the world.....Thank God! the tension was relieved - both from my injured finger and also from my mind and surrounding.....

After came back to hometown i visited a clinic and the doctor look at it just like small matter. I told him my finger cannot be straightened, and without a warning, he grabbed my hand and 'straightened' it for me. I screamed out loud. Out of my expectation, this doctor said no bone fracture (without examine the condition or x-ray) and he gave me oilment and pain killer and said i am done! With all the doubts in my head, i just trust he is good doctor and a no-liar. If the condition doesn't improve for the next 3 days i should go for x-ray...

Up to today, my finger is a lot better and recovering at amazing speed! Although still feel the prick on nerve while typing now, it is definitely improved then last weekend!!!

Lessons to learn:
1. Trust has to be simple and child-like --> and i prayed hard for God's healing
2. always remember 1 John 4:4 whenever you encouter spiritual warfare or uneasy surrounding
3. Trust God to bring peace in your heart

Wrong lane for a shortcut

I was queueing up for traffic light while approaching my office. The farthest left lane is for left turning only. There was this car who just stop at the line when the light turning into red. I was right behind this car so i soft honk to signal him to turn to the left. At the moment i saw him glanced at me from his back side mirror, and ignored me. I figured he probably wanted to go straight direction and not knowing this is left-turning only lane.I flashed him with lights for couple times again and hoping he is not blocking the traffic behind by turning left. And he ignored again, and from his back side mirror i saw his expression on the mirror as if I am one of the road-buster. His face showed annoyance. At that moment i felt the urge to get down the car and tell him don't ever give this kind of look when he is on the wrong lane for a shortcut in a queue! I am a bit frustrated. He looks 40+ years old guy and i suppose he already had the driving license more than 20 years. Can't he even read the sign or follow the arrow on the road correctly?

I can understand people trying to cut queue or shortcut always for a reason. And i did the same sometimes. But cutting queue at the expense of blocking of traffic is a no-no case. People need to understand when you are trying to do things in a different way, one should not bring the impact on others. The public should not bear the cost of when you try to do things differently. In this case, i really want the guy to know that his annoyance is offensive and not respecting other road users.

But at the end , i didnot get down the car. Just wait till the green light and the car go straight and i turned left. I told myself that God forgives me and so I forgive him also.

James 1:19-20 "...Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires."

What Element is your Love?

Your Love Element Is Wood

In love, you tend to gently dominate and guide your partner. For you, love is all about sharing goals and future plans. You attract others with creativity and vision. Your flirting style is defined by your honesty and assertiveness. Growth and improvement are the cornerstones of your love life. You may focus on goals too much in relationships, but you never come out of them with a loss. You connect best with: Water Avoid: Metal You and another Wood element: will be doomed to a stormy relationship

What Element Is Your Love?

Volunteers

I took on a volunteer project that subsidized by our company. This is very interesting social responsibility project that we have over 100 students around 11 to 16 years old come joined in the project. We'd raised a lot of awareness on environmental issues - pollutions, damage of ecosystems, environmental protection, etc. What a great ideas to have this awareness created to kids who are growing up to understand about the environment. I found a great passion to be one of the volunteers in. Being a help to the students during their powerpoint presentation, their questions to answers, or even games to play with. They are pure and fascinating and cute!!! I have learnt not only how to communicate with children, and also the responsibilities about being a volunteer. So much to say about attitude of volunteer, which i probably will reiterate in my next post, I find the whole trip is just full of life learning opportunities. Given the pure heart of child, you never know what kind of questions that they will ask, and when they asked, you will be surprised what kind of thought is inside the little brain. Everytime i talked to the kid, it just reminded me that i used to be at their age. And i started to scratch my head of what i was thinking at that time compared to them now. Gosh! what an experience to be in this activity! The project will last longer as the students will be grouped to carry out the project again on 2 more phases. I can't wait to see the outcome which is expected to be by end of this year.

Life is unpredictable

Just got a call friend of mine who told me that the boss of the comic shop that i always been committed suicide yesterday evening nearby my condo. It was shocking and unbelievable! This morning i even helped myself to get his DVD and planning to return the DVD to him tonight. Yet he is no longer around. A man that I just talked to on last Sunday, and now he is gone. So fast, so unpredictable, and incredible. I was frightened the moment when i heard of this. Still remember couple months ago we are in discussion about selling off his comics shop business and i even introduce friend to him. To me, i think he is in financial difficulties and struggling to find ways out of the situation. We talked quite a bit and i even introduced him to get some printing job business from my ex company.
This incident is so sudden. Poor is the kids and wife that he left behind. Life is so short and people are struggling for different things at different stage. A lot of time if we cannot see through the bigger picture in this life, we may end up "speeding to the lake of fire". I am curious don't he wish to see what his chidren is like when they grown up? A purpose driven life is meaningful and should be full of joy even gone with trials. My condolences for his family and pray that God will comfort and delivers at time like this.

Paperless

I made a comment to one of my suppliers yesterday in a meeting that our company is very lean on paper - a well developed paperless environement. I used to keep a journal with me to record meeting minutes, notes, tasks to complete during the day etc etc.... and now bringing the journal is like a 'burden' already. Typing is most of the time rather Writing. This morning i tried to write something on paper later i found that i am only repeating the tasks on paper as already been recording in my laptop. Gosh, i am killing part of the tree here!!!

More and more of the trees are cutting down and i am sure everyone of you also feel the heat now in this country and no shedding available. Social responsibility is a big word to fulfil, but why not we start from little thingy to type rather to write?
which type are you?

Trust or Misled Imagination?

I was on a short trip to a friend's wedding last weekend. I borrowed a friend's laptop to check on emails, while he is away for another drinking session after the dinner. Something prompts me and i accidentally saw some pics that are not suppose to be seen. To me, the pics are okay and not devastating. But to the fact that it related to a trust that we put together. A series of questions prompt to my heads - shoudl I tell him i saw these pics and apologies for my invasion of his privacy? Those pics are enough to create some 'imagination' about his integrity and his behavior. To be clear, the pics are just about some friends hang out in a bar and pics taken with some nice and pretty waitresses there. No doubt it is just another guys nite out sort of pics.

It related to me an issue of trust. Because of breach of trust, I was led into pitfall of imagination that really demoted the impression i had with this guy. I don't know why, just don't feel good about it. At some point, i felt upset and disappointed. In another way, i am reluctant to believe that is true because he is really Mr Nice Guy in my life. However, being woman at this age, i must admit that we are all adult and can deal with this maturedly. To some extend, I didnot take any actions because it was our friends wedding and there would be some "aftermath" activities going on the next day. So i only mentioned that after we returned.

To him, it is just a misunderstanding of behavioral interpretation. To me, it is something hidden that refused to reveal. Hard to prove my imagination to be true and has a stand, I leave it as is. However, I know how hard it is to build a person's trust and integrity, especially someone we cared the most. I am a person that does not believe sentences that start with "I SWEAR...." it is also biblical "It is better not to vow than to make a vow and not fulfil it." (Ecclesiates 5:5) Trust is to be put on action,and need to be gained and not taken for granted.

The art of Words

Ecclesiates 6:11
"The more the words, the less the meaning, and how does that profit anyone? "

I came across this verse last night. It was very interesting because it rang to me twice this week to give a deeper thought about it. I found it difficult to master what we always called "straight to the point". When i see those acupuncture master, i think they demostrate a very good lesson to all of us. To cure, is to the point with pressure; whereas your work may be in vain if your pressure is on the surrounding area, or even worsen the condition. I was in discussion with my colleagues and also with my family, and a lot of time we strayed away and losing the focus. Be Focus is the key. And hereby God asked us to be clean at the words, not the length of words as it has no profit to anyone. Nagging is the negative effect of this and therefore get the bad feeling of people who got nagged. I am one of those that i will do whatever it takes to avoid a "nagging" from someone because it makes me feel very impatient and very uncontrollable !! haha

Wish that you all keep this verse in mind and always be reminded of yourself. No matter if you are in a meeting discussion or in typing an email (like what i am now??!!!) Got to straight to the point, ya!

have a good weekend!

The Anti Aging

Last night i went for my scheduled facial. Very relaxing, and felt the excitement of the extraction of dirty stuff from my face.... feel great but painful and kept me wondering how many had i built them up in the past 2 months? By end of the session, my beautician actually recommended me to get on Anti-Aging product. I would say, never in my life that ever someone came and tell me about "Anti-Aging" and here it was. The young little girl who just said out naturally, that i should. Oh my! Realising that i am at the age to do Anti-Aging, versus the kind of activity or my behavior just not in proportion! Ha Ha! I am not offended but thought for a while. God said in Ecclesiates 3:1-3 "There is a time for everything; and a season for every activity under heaven. A time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot; a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build"

So i concluded Aging is a natural process in timely manner. Several years ago i watched CSI and one of the episode quoted that "Aging is an illness" and woman are searching fanatically to get the cure of aging. If Aging is an illness, won't that mean i am getting 'illness' worsen everyday even when i was growing up? So why people are so cheer up about a child being grown up and matured???

Respect your Quality of Daily Life

Due to the training and meetings going on, i had been in and out of office several times this week and not able to update this blog. This is Friday afternoon , 5:30pm and colleagues are packing up stuff to leave for the weekend. "Weekend" really a buzz words for everybody. People get excited when it comes to weekend, for different reasons. For me, I have more appetite to meals on Friday - a day before weekend just because knowing that tomorrow is Saturday. I don't know why, but to me the rules of thumb always be "respect the quality of your life" This doesn't mean that you have to spend money to go vacations or cruise. To me, a coffee break at Starbucks for couple hours, alone, reading favorite magazines, or just observing or be imaginative, will make my day!

As usual, I like to greet on Friday evening like this,"HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND!!"

My Sesame Street

I took a Sesame personality test and the result came otu that i am a BiG BirD. Sometimes people get too easily to believe into their own window and not knowing we might get the wrong window for perspective. The result is "what I see people see thru me" Got it? You Are Big Bird

Talented, smart, and friendly... you're also one of the sanest people around. You are usually feeling: Happy. From riding a unicycle to writing poetry, you have plenty of hobbies to keep you busy. You are famous for: Being a friend to everyone. Even the grumpiest person gets along with you. How you life your life: Joyfully. "Super. Duper. Flooper."

The Sesame Street Personality Quiz

The smell of Lily

Today our office level has changed the flowers to Lily. The fragrance is so strong that whenever i pass by the aisle in and out of our office, i felt i am entering into a garden. With the closed door behind me, everything was shut off, no fragrance smell, but a cold and icy office with no more than 5 people talking.

People like to stay in their comfort zone. As in like what kind of arrangement of their desk is, where the pile the file is, and where the stapler is, etc, etc. Whenever somebody take over the desk or rearrange anything on the desk, they felt intruded. Although it is a free sitting style, people still tend to settle down where they sit yesterday. Gosh..... did anyone appreciate the smell of the lily outside the closed door ? Which is such a beautiful setting and refresh you up even when you just walk pass by? Comfort zone can be a locked door, or an open door. When it is an open swing door, we can smell the scent of lily coming towards us and it really works to revitalize and to refresh.

Thanks to the janitor who changes the flower every week.

Plastics today

It was an aweful conversation with a guy last nite. And it fact it was about money factor in our society today. What a pathetic world that 9 out 10 people around us make living just to pay of plastics today? La vie est ...? Got friend wanna get married, no money, but they still happy go lucky, and put all the bills on plastic. It is a right way to do it? I mean after all the celebration, it all comes back to having debts on your hand that took so many months and years to get rid of?

However to me, i think it is valid. The cost of living so high now, that the incoming earning is always slower than the outgoing expenses. Relying on plastic is no longer a 'choice' per se, but a neccessity for people who really want to get things done in efficient way. I wonder who still in this city not having credit balance on their plastics? I kind of squirt off about it.

My First Step

Today i finally started a space for myself, a space that i shared my words and ideas and thoughts and minds. Quite often, in this busy & stressful life, people got so tired about to share and to think. People getting robotic when it comes to growth. I have been through that for a long time. And finally i decided to step out, not sure how long i will keep this blogging, but that will be my short message sharing everyday.